Author: MaggyMac

First published at 6 years old (The Daily Gleaner, Fredericton, NB, Canada). Have written something every single day of my life, if only a To-Do list. Bearing down on writing THAT book for me and myself alone. If it resonates, reaches, inspires, disgusts, bores, or otherwise affects external readers, I have achieved all I wished to achieve on this planet.

Off-Putting

Today’s writing prompt: What have you been putting off doing? Why?

Taxes.

I know I am not alone in this. The prompt is timely as I am remiss in providing my accountant with all of the necessary records and statements to get the verdammtes things finished.

I believe my aversion to taxes is connected to other money-based fears I have.

My father was a miser. In retrospect, I would call it an identifiable disorder. I know his miserliness emerged from childhood trauma. In his childhood, he experienced severe emotional and also financial lack (though not wildly different than others of his generation).

His miserliness in coin and spirit defined him and his life.

By contrast, my mother was exactly opposite. She freely and frequently spent money she didn’t have. She would not concede that there would be a lack of anything in her life – no matter what reality showed her.

In both parents, money issues came from dysfunctional childhoods and plagued them to their grave. In fact, their money management styles only became more deeply entrenched as they grew older.

My father exhibited visible pain when his caregiver selected a package of ham only slightly more expensive than the ham offered at the lowest price. She switched them out and bought the lower priced (and lower quality) ham. His relief was palpable.

For awhile, he ran an ice cream parlor. That was a sweet semi-hobby (pun intended) my father took on in retirement. For his grandkids, it certainly was. But Dad drove his employees up the wall. He hung around the shop all day and would not stockpile perishable items, like bananas.

When someone came in and ordered a banana split, Dad would get in is car, trundle down to the supermarket ten minutes away to buy one. One banana. I can’t imagine his strategy was all that great for attracting repeat business when a customer had to wait 20-30 minutes for an ice cream treat. I can’t imagine any money he saved by not stockpiling made up the cost of his gas.

My mother was completely opposite. A bit of a scofflaw if I’m honest. When the banks came after her in her dotage for unpaid loans, she actually took them to court to argue that she hadn’t made payments on the loans because the banks miscalculated the interest.

I can’t imagine the legal logic she deployed to make that argument. I never saw the argument written down on paper. I’m not she ever did write it down or would have dared. I only know Mom lost that case to the banks. She often said, “The banks never lose.” She knew that going in.

I know people who actually do their taxes themselves, every year and submit them on time. I do not understand those people.

Even with hired help to get the dreaded taxes done, my neurosis hangs on. I am a procrastinator extraordinaire when it comes to tackling my taxes. Or I go the opposite way. I binge produce my statements only to have the whole process slow and eventually shut down because I missed sending one statement in the annual batch.

It is an immaturity to be sure. It is also clearly a neurosis. A crazy mix of my mother and father’s belief and treatment of money. I save every receipt and invoice and bank statement like Gollum holding on to his “Precioussssss.” Unlike Gollum, I don’t get the same emotional or psychological satisfaction from grasping and holding on to fading pieces of paper.

During my recent hoard unload, it was beyond satisfying (and embarrassing) to throw out batches of receipts and paper clutter I had been hanging on to for decades. It is important to mention that not once in all those years of hoarding receipts in case of a tax audit, did I ever have to face one.

Yet there is a teeny-tiny voice inside that says if you start throwing away receipts now, you just KNOW the tax department is going to come for you. Maybe. Maybe not.

I only know it seems like a silly (but essential) habit of receipt hoarding I have had my whole adult life.

So there. I am making my fears known and facing the buggery tax returns. I’ve done that before and it is usually enough to get me partway through the backlog. I need to do it again. Ad infinitum it would seem. Or at least annually.

So guess what I’m doing today? Honest? Likely anything but taxes unless the money gods conspire to inspire me. Sigh.

Turning Tides

In The Atlantic, I recently read an article with the tragic title: Why The Past Ten Years of American Life Have Been Uniquely Stupid, and the even sadder sub-title: It’s not just a phase,” by writer Jonathan Haidt.

I read Haidt’s article with a curious mix of horror and hope. Let me explain.

We all know – or should – that we are living in unprecedented times. I hadn’t been sure when the “tipping point” occurred but by author Haidt’s calculation, it was around 2010.

It was during and after that year that social media evolved from being benign social sharing platforms into something immensely more insidious and hateful.

Added capacities on social media platforms such as “share” buttons and “retweeting” meant that any random ideas or comments – no matter how wrong, inflammatory or hysterical – could spread like wildfire.

Viral posts could elevate someone’s profile for a short time or destroy someone in the same timeframe, depending. This capacity for viral gang banging has been deadly on our society, our mental health and our level of trust in established institutions set up to guide and oversee our collective stability and well-being.

Once upon a time, the leaden processes of discourse and change drove me nuts. To achieve or change anything, there were protocols that deemed, and often doomed, positive change, especially if a quick response was required.

As most of my early work life was in academia and government, I would shudder when an issue needed to be submitted to and resolved “by committee.” Committees met infrequently. They were often populated by self-interested windbags more interested in the sound of their own voice than in speedy and positive resolution of anything.

My mind often moved more quickly tin those days to a “logical conclusion.” I saw committees as largely self-serving, pedantic entities that doomed many great ideas to the dustbin. Death by attrition.

At this time in history, decision-making power over important issues was concentrated in the hands of the elite few. That was the case in universities, government, sometimes churches, and definitely in financial institutions.

Enter the internet and social media. Global game changers. But not in a good way as it has turned out. There is a strict separation between the left and right. There is an erosion of trust at all levels and in all institutions. The problem will not go away or get better, Haidt points out, as AI informs and adds to the mountains of disinformation so readily available and consumed.

I now find my support for the internet’s possibilities much more conservative. I was excited to my very core when the internet emerged. I lauded its democratic promise. Now, I reasoned, anyone, anywhere, with a computer and wifi had access to all of the knowledge in the world. Wow.

Its ramifications for artists and innovative thinking were limitless, I reasoned. Authors rejected by traditional publishers for their whole careers could now find a corner of the internet where their writing could be read. Their manuscript could be published. It might be dreck but it was their very own dreck.

Free speech would arise in unison from all corners and classes, I reasoned. Free speech combined with easy access to information and facts would create a more democratic and just society. How naive was I?

Jonathan Haidt writes: “The story of Babel is the best metaphor I have found for what happened to America in the 2010s, and for the fractured country we now inhabit. Something went terribly wrong, very suddenly. We are disoriented, unable to speak the same language or recognize the same truth. We are cut off from one another and from the past.“

Haidt continues: “… Babel is not a story about tribalism; it’s a story about the fragmentation of everything. It’s about the shattering of all that had seemed solid, the scattering of people who had been a community.“

It is the conclusion of Haidt’s article that heartens me. He identifies pockets of sanity and resistance that are emerging. Hallelujah. Haidt alludes to something that has been on my mind for some time. It is “We the People” who must work ourselves out of this mess.

We collectively recognize the downward and unpleasant shift in angry and violent discourse because we are living it. Here is where we must recommit ourselves – as in so many instances – to self-salvation, if there is salvation to be had from technology’s less positive influences.

“In recent years, Americans have started hundreds of groups and organizations dedicated to building trust and friendship across the political divide, including BridgeUSA, Braver Angels (on whose board I serve), and many others listed at BridgeAlliance.us. We cannot expect Congress and the tech companies to save us. We must change ourselves and our communities.“

Excuse me while I head over these websites to see how I can do my part in bringing this runaway train back into line. You may hear more about this issue from me. It feels critical to sustaining our democratic institutions and processes.

Even more important to my personal hobby horse about elevation of the health and well-being of individuals, it feels critical to recapturing our collective sanity and peace of mind.

Just This Today

Because this one fact is just that important to contemplate and remind ourselves … again and again and again ad infinitum. Because truth is true and worthy of reminding ourselves. Frequently.

“Life is tragic simply because the earth turns and the sun inexorably rises and sets, and one day, for each of us, the sun will go down for the last, last time.

Perhaps the whole root of our trouble, the human trouble, is that we will sacrifice all the beauty of our lives, will imprison ourselves in totems, taboos, crosses, blood sacrifices, steeples, mosques, races, armies, flags, nations, in order to deny the fact of death, the only fact we have.

It seems to me that one ought to rejoice in the fact of death–ought to decide, indeed, to earn one’s death by confronting with passion the conundrum of life.

One is responsible for life: It is the small beacon in that terrifying darkness from which we come and to which we shall return.” —James Baldwin (THE FIRE NEXT TIME; Vintage Books & Anchor Books)

Come Fly With Me

Today’s writing prompt: What is something you would attempt, if you were guaranteed not to fail?

What wouldn’t I attempt? Without question, the biggest challenge I would tackle would be to become a pilot. The urge to travel and fly was in me from an early age.

At 17, I applied to be an airline stewardess with a small regional airline in the Eastern part of Canada. The rejection letter was partly disappointing and partly heartening. I was too young to be hired they told me. But they encouraged me to apply again when I turned 19.

As fate would have it, by the time I was 19, I had been accepted at university. That sealed my fate for the following four years and many years that followed. Still, I worked in a good deal of flying in those university years.

I travelled twice to Europe twice between academic semesters. At the end of third year, I spent a summer in Egypt on a student seminar with about 50 other Canadians.

Following graduation, I travelled to Asia and throughout Sri Lanka, India and Nepal. You may have read of my trek through the Himalayas .

My husband was a commercial airline pilot. The irony and suitability of our union has not been lost on me. While I was schlepping from country to country on this airline or another as a passenger, he was actually flying the planes. Our paths never crossed in those days but we laugh at the possibility that they certainly might have.

My husband was a pioneer in the age of commercial flight. He flew for Pan American World Airways for 20 years until its’ untimely demise in 1991. The death of that iconic airline marked a sea change in the history of aviation.

Pan Am set the bar for class, luxury and service. I marveled that prime rib roast was not only served at seat side in Pan Am’s first class section, but had been roasted in the airline galley. Passengers got to choose their preferred cut. The wine selection rivaled a 5-star Michelin restaurant. Caviar was a standard “appetizer.”

My husband tells stories of the many glamorous passengers he ferried back and forth across the oceans. Elizabeth Taylor. Maggie Smith (who hated to fly). Flip Wilson (funny as hell.) Duke Ellington (wore a dewrag.) Burt Lancaster (shorter than he looked onscreen).

In one poignant story about a stewardess he tells how excited she was to serve Rock Hudson in first class. But her heart quietly broke after sharing her excitement with her galley colleagues. It was only then she learned Hudson’s male travel companion was also his boyfriend.

I had heard of Pan Am off in the distance. Ephemerally. I never flew on it. As a Canadian, we had other choices for European and international travel. It is my loss. The Pan Am logo on the side of a 747 was an iconic symbol in countless movies and TV shows. My husband refers to the cockpit of a 747 as his “office.”

Pan Am stories still drift through the world and are recounted by many people we meet – whether travelers or employees, always recounted with a certain wistfulness and joy. Pan Am employees seemed to universally love working at Pan Am.

My husband’s stories are full of glamor and fun they had both on the aircraft and during layovers. Pan Am employees believed – it is said – that “the world is my oyster.” When Pan Am declared bankruptcy in 1991, and went out of business, some employees committed suicide.

There are still Pan Am clubs in many places where there are still enough ex-employees to justify them. There is a Pan Am museum in Florida. You can still buy Pan Am “merch” and memorabilia online.

Today there are many female commercial airline pilots. Had I been born later, I might have been one of them. My husband and I often talk about the unlikelihood of our meeting in the first place. It was on an online dating site, not a normal domain for either of us. I was in Canada. He was in the US.

Along with the mysteries of falling in love, we talked with familiarity about restaurants and sites we saw in Buenos Aires, New Delhi, Rome, Paris, Munich and many other international capitals. In one conversation, he finally gave up asking me which countries I had visited: “This might go faster if you just tell me which countries you haven’t visited.” It still makes us chuckle.

No chance of failure? I’d be in a flight simulator somewhere in a New York minute. I’d abandon a lot of other dreams to pursue the goal of becoming a pilot.

And who knows? I ain’t dead yet. The game isn’t over until the fat lady sings. Of course, that phrase means one should not presume to know the outcome of an event which is still in progress.

Which is – in this case – my life.

So we’ll see.

Happy Anniversary

Today’s writing prompt: What was the hardest personal goal you’ve set for yourself?

This is timely. Today is the 24th anniversary of my sobriety. Back in the last century, I made a commitment several weeks before the turn of the century. I was going to take my last drink before the clock struck midnight on December 31st, 1999.

So I did it. In retrospect, it feels easier to have quit booze than it likely was. In the culture I came from, drinking was social currency. “Have a beer!” “Join us for cocktails after work.” “Pick up a 2-4 and we’ll go camping for the weekend.”

That booze masks pain is a given. But there was something more to it and the culture in which it thrived. A mark of adulthood? A sense of belonging? An adult-like behavior denied to us when we were 18 years and 364 days old. But the next day!! Wow. Hoist a glass. Join the fellas. Be a man!

Of course, this mysterious crossover to “adulthood” age barrier is quite state or province or country specific. Also gender specific. Women are not granted the same sense of admission when they take their first drink – another peculiar sex based inequality in our culture.

When I was a teenager, I was a passenger in a car that slid off the road and flipped over. We all walked away. When the tremulous driver shakily meets up with his father (the cars’ owner), his father offers him a “real” alcoholic drink (instead say, of a glass of milk or a soda).

It would appear an element of the rite of passage into the drinking culture also has to do with not killing a carful of your peers. Chin, chin!

Some famous incidents stand out in my drinking career. I was 20 and had just travelled nonstop overnight by train from Munich, Germany to Barcelona, Spain. I was exhausted. But not too exhausted to go wide eyed when I learned styrofoam coffee cups full of Grand Marnier cost 20 cents each.

I think I downed a dollar’s worth. Not to good effect. I fell asleep on my side under the hot Spanish sun. I awoke several hours later with a deep, painful sunburn on the right side of my leg. It took many more cumulative years of similarly stupid acts before it finally dawned on me that I had a problem.

One thing about alcoholism is that it can take time to develop and for the problem to become obvious. When you are young – as with most everything else – your capacity for recovery is more resilient. Long term alcohol consumption seems to break down cellular resistance to its more deleterious effects.

It did with me. I can’t say precisely when I realized “I had a problem.” I can’t say precisely when “I knew” I had to quit booze for my own sake and the sake of my children. Booze took nearly everything from me until it finally exited my life. Booze did not go quietly into “that good night.”

But went from life booze finally did. October 11, 1999. There is much to say about what the intervening years without booze taught me and put me through. How I learned to manage pain and tragedy and disappointment without it. I’m not 100% sure how I adapted and survived life without it. I just know I did.

Am I stronger? Probably. Healthier? Absolutely.

Sometimes I get my jollies sniffing the bouquet of a dinner companion’s delicious liqueur. If there is one thing I miss about booze, it was the sensual delight. The exquisite tastes. The heady bouquets. The complexity of the flavors.

Then my mind casts itself back to waking up deep fried in the Spanish sunshine after my Grand Marnier binge all those years ago. And all of the temptation and inherent pleasures that imbibing even a sip of the liqueur in front of me dissipate.

I get myself a soft drink and more and more frequently, a glass of ice water. With lemon. Liquid nirvana.

Considerably less flavorful but infinitely more satisfying. It’s a more than acceptable tradeoff. It still is today, 24 years after taking the pledge.

Rent A Relative

This is my brand new, billion dollar business idea. “Rent A Relative, Inc.” Who’s with me?

I mean, there are already “rent a girlfriend” agencies. They offer an attractive and agreeable companion who can accompany you to any one of a number of events to show that you are socially viable.

I wonder how often those transactional “dates” turn into “actual” relationships. I mean it is a lot more honest and upfront than a lot of our culture’s haphazard dating rituals.

If you already have the quid pro quo worked out, then arguably it would be much easier to set up the working parameters of an actual relationship.

Actual “homegrown” relationships are messy and often unpredictable. Interpersonal relationships are dependent on a myriad of factors that act on our loved ones over which we have no control. Teachers. Bosses. Traffic and road rage driven drivers. Difficult colleagues. Difficult clerks and pushy salesclerk. Banks. And increasingly, airlines.

If a sexual dalliance is your desire, there are countless other agencies that offer those services. Once and done. Or two or three times if you are testosterone heavy. That’s the man side. I admittedly don’t know much about the woman side of the equation. My “experience” is restricted to Richard Gere’s bold performance in the movie, American Gigolo, back in the day.

Men selling love and sex is not as popular a notion in our culture as the idea of women dispersing themselves sexually for fun and profit. But that is kind of a running theme in our society. Women usually bear the brunt of responsibility for sexual “deviation” regardless of the circumstances or perpetrators.

The exchange of sexual favors for money is a whole other well-established business idea than I have. And it has been around a lot longer than my business idea.

What I hate about real relations is history. It is hard if not impossible to escape. So just as you are trekking along on some happy afternoon outing, you find out that that thing you just said reminded them of something you did or didn’t do when they were 11 years old.

Apparently you never acknowledged that slight. Or you didn’t take it seriously enough. Or you never made up for it. Sufficiently. Or you don’t understand what it did to them.

In the face of such “feedback,” I am often rendered moot. Not only do I not necessarily remember the offending incident, but have to take my “relatives” word for it that I did what I did and I didn’t do what I was supposed to do to atone for the injury.

A rented relative could be counted on to never bring up past unpleasantness. They would have no knowledge of what you did or didn’t do in the past. You may miss the fact that they don’t remember the good things you shared in the past.

But this arrangement does hold the inherent guarantee that all present “relations” (to coin a phrase) would be smooth and easy.

When you are “done” with the hired relation, you could just stamp their time card and send them home. No commitment to the weeklong stay . No awkward silences after Uncle Freddy got too drunk (again). And “mistakenly” bumped into niece Sally’s chest.

No senseless revisitation (as happens way too often) in arguments when the sins of a lifetime are drug up and hurled at married partners with vicious precision. None of this resolves anything. It creates new wounds. It perpetuates the old wounds. Nothing is resolved.

The relationship doesn’t grow or move forward. The dynamic simply gets stuck in the sand. Tension is the predominant tone as the injuries lurk under the surface ready to rise up instantly in the face of renewed triggers that revive them.

So it makes perfect sense to me that hiring a relative for important family celebrations and visits makes infinitely more sense. No senseless anxiety about whether we are measuring up to Aunt Mary’s unflinching hosting standards. No wonder about what Christmas gifts to send to your grandparents when they are already millionaires and own everything imaginable.

That estranged son that causes so much unrelenting pain? Switch him out. Invite a “rent a relation” to make the rounds of Christmas parties with you. Or a husband even. The possibilities are endless.

Now I’m the first to admit the idea is pretty fresh and unformed at the moment. It will need work to bring to fruition.

But scoff if you will, in this age of AI and robots and technological advances, I honestly don’t think we are too far off. I want to get in on the ground floor.

There are relations I love dearly and wish to keep in my life forever. Still there are no guarantees. But since I have fairly light relationships with several existing family members, if pressed, I would love to have an agency to call up and have them send over a sister or two for Christmas dinner to jazz up the celebration.

I think it is a brilliant idea. And what worries me, is that in this day and age of disconnected and fragmented human relations, there is a ripe and ready business opportunity right in front of our noses.

So again I say, scoff if you will and I ask, who’s with me?

Write This Way

Writer Anne Lamott is my kind of people. Given her legion of fans, I guess a lot of other people feel the same way. 

She’s wry and witty and insightful and very funny and irreverent but also with a keen felt sense of the sacred and miracles. That seems to be a pretty cool way to go through life.

I found this Anne Lamott excerpt [naturally] at a time when I need it most. We word worshippers are becoming an endangered species. The other night my adult daughter said to me, in passing: “Words don’t mean anything any more.”

It felt like a gut punch. It felt similar to the growing disrespect and lack of civility I feel in business and social discourse these days. [My galling experience flying home to my husband from Canada was a particularly loathsome example of incivility gone wild.]

So when I get the chance to lift up and, indeed, proselytize the words of someone whose worldview I share, I am so on it.

That said, savor this perspective and these book recommendations from Anne Lamott. I actively seek wisdom and insight these days like I used to seek public recognition and booze [cross addictions].

She’s one of the good guys.

Anne Lamott’s 5 Favorite Books for Finding Hope

“I try to write the books I would love to come upon, that are honest, concerned with real lives, human hearts, spiritual transformation, families, secrets, wonder, craziness—and that can make me laugh. When I am reading a book like this, I feel rich and profoundly relieved to be in the presence of someone who will share the truth with me, and throw the lights on a little, and I try to write these kinds of books. Books, for me, are medicine.”—Anne Lamott

“Strangers in Their Own Land” by Arlie Russell Hochschild

“I have been foisting this on everyone since the election. A famed sociologist from Berkeley spends months visiting the Louisiana Bayou and getting to know the people who live there—their values, problems, minds, hearts, lives, and dreams. What they tell us in their conversations and how Hochschild changes by listening to them give me hope for our country.”

“Happy All the Time” by Laurie Colwin

“This is a beautiful, hilarious, big-hearted novel about four really good, slightly odd mixed-up people (like us) as they form couples: shy, worried, and brave. I have given away THOUSANDS of copies.”

“Praying for Sheetrock” by Melissa Fay Greene

“This is one of my favorite nonfiction books ever. It’s about a small backwoods county in Georgia in the 1970s struggling to be included in the progress for civil rights and about the idealists who lead the cause against entrenched racism. It’s a story that reads like a novel, filled with eccentrics and ordinary folks. Lovely in every way. If you read it, you will owe me forever.”

“The Illustrated Rumi” by Jelaluddin Rumi

“I love Rumi so much. I can open this book to any page, read any one of his poems, study any one of the illustrations, and feel spiritually rejuvenated—or at least a little less cranky and self-obsessed.”

“Women Food and God” by Geneen Roth

“This is the most profound and helpful book on healing from the tiny, tiny, tiny issues around eating and body issues that some of us have had for, oh, most of our lives. Charming, wise, funny, and deep.”

Via Radical Reads

What Owns You?

Today’s writing prompt: What would you do if you lost all your possessions?

I have gone through that experience a few times in my life, literally and figuratively. Sometimes by choice. Other times by loss. theft, or my own omissions. I forgot stuff in various places occasionally. So annoying.

In the absence of solid social and family support, possessions became my anchor.

It wasn’t a rational substitute. But the mental and emotional preoccupation of “taking care of” stuff gave me the illusion of self-care and control over my personal domain.

Going through a lifetime of possessions over this past month drove home the lesson of how deep an illusion it was.

Life would be much tidier if we just came preprogrammed with all the requisite skills we need to succeed in life. But we don’t. Growing and growing up involves time and the mysterious alchemy of nurture and nature.

We can take inventory of all the qualities we inherit from our parents and extended family and environment. In to that mix comes the special sauce of our own character and personality that we bring to the table.

Our personal taste seems internally determined but is undoubtedly overlaid with the influences of our childhood home or homes. It is why we often see gaucherie or insecurity in the decorating tastes of the nouveau riche.

It is said that the middle class have things, and the rich have money. If you were raised in poverty or the middle class and come into money, that background is often manifested in excess. If you haven’t learned healthy boundaries or money management rules growing up, you may go off the rails quickly if sudden wealth comes your way.

On one of those fascinating, if squirm inducing, “I Won The Lottery!” shows, a middle-aged redneck took inordinate pride in the original Italian marble statues (imported directly from Italy!) that surrounded his oversize backyard pool.

He made a point of explaining why he didn’t give his teenage daughter an allowance. “She has to learn she will have to earn her own money,” he said, disingenuously. “Just like I did.”

Hanging out with people who have or come from money, you see how taken for granted or comfortable they are with wealth and comfort. Want something? Get it. Lose or break something? Replace it. Don’t have any at the moment? But I will.

There was no gnashing of teeth or wailing about how to get what they wanted or getting their needs met. When I was about 14, I tentatively asked my Dad for $5. “I already gave you $5 last week. What do you need more money for? “Tampons,” I almost whispered, writhing in shame and humiliation.

Our emotional relationship with things develop much like as our relationships with human beings develop. When attentive human beings are not consistently available to meet our multiple needs as we grow up, we compensate. We may then learn to divert our attention and seek satisfaction from things instead of getting our legitimate human needs met.

It’s a pervasive compensatory tactic.

“Too many people spend money they haven’t earned, to buy things they don’t want, to impress people that they don’t like.”
― Will Rogers

Today’s writing prompt asked, what would you do if you lost all your possessions? I might throw a party. I might pack a napsack and head for parts unknown. I might go to a meditation retreat center to think about what my life was before and after possessions held me in thrall.

If/when that day comes. I hope I will treat myself with the requisite level of empathy and compassion for doing what I did and felt I had to do to make up for emotional deficits in my life.

Until I finally learned to meet my normal human needs and find satisfaction in healthier, people focussed ways.

Blither Blather

I feel I have failed because I have bailed.

I might have railed because my ship has sailed. [Without me.]

At least I wasn’t jailed.

I thought I’d nailed the timely daily post.

It turns out that was a baseless boast. [Today at any rate.]

I enjoy my work as a wordsmith host.

But today, I feel like nothing more than toast.

Many rhyming words are spelled different than others.

[If we’re lucky, a learning passed down from our mothers.]

The English language is a hotbed of inconsistence. [A new word I just learned!]

Without exploration, we’d never know the difference.

But words are also confusing and I’m burned out.

So with that, for today, I am bowing out.

I’ll be back to writing line after line …

When Spirit moves and I’m feeling fine.

Real World Test

Airline travel. Used to be a fan. Now not so much.

I am writing from the belly of the beast. Newark airport.

As I posted, I was looking forward to flying back to my new home base in Florida.

For one reason or another, I ended up going today instead of yesterday. No biggie.

I needed the extra rest.

Got my bags and cat all on board safely to fly southward and arrived. In Newark.

Getting out of Newark appears to be more of a problem.

On the spot, a flight attendant proclaimed the “airline approved” hard-sided carrier “unsuitable.”

Me and carrier and cat within it were all escorted off our flight.

Now what?

Go to Newark Airport baggage and buy a soft-sided carrier, I’m told. Where is that? How do I get there? How long does it take to get there and back?

In the old days, airport personnel just “knew.” They were familiar enough with their environment and what was needed and where to find it. These days, if it can’t be looked up on the internet, it can’t be found. Not easily at any rate. And absolutely not quickly.

Another flight leaves in 40 minutes. Will I get on it? Highly unlikely.

There is a shocking degree of “not my problem” among airline and airport personnel these days. We seem to have lost any sense of shock or outrage about treating people without even the basics of care, courtesy and dignity.

The gate agents who were there to “help” me disappeared. Literally left their posts and went elsewhere.

I suppose my biggest concern is that this type of shoddy service is so common these days, it’s hardly worth mentioning. Because it seems to happen to everyone at one time or the other all of the time.

The foundations of civil society will not end with a bang but with a whimper. It is the daily erosion of common courtesy and decency that are eroding our social structure.

Much more even than the flashy, big-mouthed politicians who push “solutions” to our social ills that not even they can take seriously in their private domain.

So I sit and wait as I have been instructed to do. My options are limited. They run the airlines after all.

I am in a state of mild shock and disbelief. Not so much because I have been personally mistreated and disregarded by hired professionals who are mandated to have your best interests at heart. But because everyone is being treated like this lately.

If you subscribe to the notions of “the golden rule” and “what goes around, comes around” as foundational tenets of the social contract, it is not surprising why our society’s well-being seems fundamentally frayed and flawed.

Am I attributing too much meaning to a service slip from a major airline? Sadly, I think not.