I’m doing it again. Occasionally I stumble across other authors’ posts with a message so simple, resonant, and true, I have to share it.

Meet Gina Caruso Hussar. (https://www.ginahussar.com)

After she published the post below, Gina explained on Facebook that she wrote this in a fit of pique over approaches from men. Apparently, it was controversial. You decide for yourself.

Gina articulates what it is that makes a man attractive. Her message applies to women, too. I will deliberately twist her intention by editing her post ever so lightly to answer the universal question: what should I do to become an attractive and lovable person and find the love I am looking for in life?

This is Gina’s answer.

“Do you want to know what turns me on? What makes me burn for you?

What makes us breathless? What awakens every passionate instinct and unwraps every layer of fiery feminine sensuality?

Go to freaking therapy.

Do your work.

Heal yourself.

Lead yourself.

Be brave enough to get uncomfortable for the sake of wholeness and depth.

Be willing to build your emotional muscle so your arms are strong enough to hold the fire of an awakened woman.

Be open enough to lean into a level of depth you’ve never experienced.

Talk.

Be humble enough to admit that you don’t know everything.

Go deep.

Get real.

Stop hiding behind surface-level sex.

Evolve.

Confront what you need to confront so you can move forward without the shadow of your past.

Stop thinking that vulnerability is a weakness. It takes a GIANT of a wild man to get vulnerable and it’s HOT.

Stop running from magic when it’s exactly what you need.

Stop telling yourself “She’s too much” when the reality is you’re just afraid to be enough.

Lead yourself so you can lead ME.

Believe that you can handle it. Act accordingly.

Be the safe space. The strong ground. The calm for her storm.

Do this and you’ll find your Goddess. Do this and you’ll be taken to a place of wholeness and ecstasy you didn’t know existed and likely wouldn’t have found on your own.

Do this… and you’ll be home.

P.S. Women – do the same. “

I couldn’t have said it better myself. Thank you, Gina.